A Bitch And So Much More

I am so pissed I can hardly see straight! Yesterday when we were leaving the house we asked M where her jacket is and she said she left it at school. So later that night, when we picked her up I checked her bag. And her jacket was in it but it was wet. And smelled like urine.

When I asked her she got very upset and said that she had to go to the bathroom really, really bad and couldn’t hold it and they aren’t allowed to go in class. So she peed into her jacket. Pretty smart thinkin, for a six year old.

Did you pull down her pants, we asked. No, because you can’t pull down your pants in class or you’ll get in trouble. Yes, that’s correct, don’t pull down your pants in class. Then I said I silent prayer that I never get a call from the school that she’s pulled down her pants…

I asked her if she asked to go to the bathroom. No, she didn’t. Why not? Because they always so no, you need to hold it. So she should have asked, she totally should have.

So what did she do? She had put her jacket underneath her in her chair so no one would see and the seat wouldn’t be wet. She just peed straight through her shorts. But we didn’t get a call from the school…So did anyone notice that her pants were wet? Some of her friends asked why they were wet and she just told them it was none of their bizzwax. So NO adult in the entire school, not ONE of her THREE teachers noticed that her pants were wet? And we’re not talking a small leak here. She emptied her entire bladder; her jacket was still wet the next day!

Then as she’s telling the story she said she was crying and that one of the kids raised his hand and told the teacher she was crying and that the teacher said “Yes, I see that. I’m ignoring it.” Now, whether it happened like that or not – I KNOW M was upset. She’s six years old and she had just peed her pants! Of course she was embarrassed and stressed and didn’t know what to do… so she melted. And this is a kid who has only had two accidents since she’s been potty-trained, so it’s not like this is a regular occurrence. I am 100% sure my kid was upset. And how, how can a teacher not see that? I would expect that they would be observant enough to see when a kid is upset – in their body language and demeanor. It’s obvious when something is wrong with a child. And something was wrong!

This occurred in the morning, before lunch – how did she go the entire day without an adult realizing her pants were wet? They have a three teacher rotation, plus lunch and playground – and no one noticed wet pants? No one noticed a urine smell?

It’s concerning to me that she didn’t feel comfortable enough to ask to go the bathroom. She had no trouble asking her Kindergarten teacher…so obviously, there is something lacking in the relationship. It’s concerning that her teacher didn’t notice she was crying/upset. It’s concerning that she walked around in wet shorts and no one noticed.

I contacted the principle first thing this morning. I had considered following protocol and speaking with her teachers directly but I felt like she needed to be made aware of the situation. She did attempt to defend the teacher, telling me that she can’t believe she would say she was ignoring her…and my response was that regardless of whether she said that or not, we can’t dispute the fact that she was ignored to the point that no one noticed she had an accident.

I really, honestly don’t care if they think I am the biggest bitch on the planet – don’t care what kind of label they have for me…if it means taking care of my kid I will wear that title proudly.