You can tell a lot about a person by the way they say they're sorry.
And even more by the way they don't say they're sorry.
I mean, we've all gotten those, haven't we? The non-apology apology. They're easy to identify because they're usually filled with everything except the most important part: the I'm sorry.
Why is that so hard for people to say?
That one little part changes everything; without it the message becomes self-centered and egocentric. And not much of an apology at all.
I mean, if there isn't an "I'm sorry" does it even count as an apology? Am I just making the assumption you're sorry and the rest is...what? What is the rest? I'm lost.
And I don't need you to grovel or beg or go to great lengths to convince me of your regret. A simple "I'm sorry" is enough. Because isn't that what we all seek in an apology - acknowledgment? Just to have our hurt acknowledged? "I'm sorry I hurt you" goes a long, long way.
So if you're apologizing without the apology, you might as well save it because it's obvious you aren't sorry at all.
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