Shut It

So like I said yesterday, the husband isn't the only one who needs to reconsider what we share...

I should probably just stop talking about him completely because it always seems to comes out wrong or weird and totally makes him seem like an ass about 90% of the time. And that's never my intention. Well, usually not my intention....okay, sometimes that's my exact intention.

So some girlfriends and I are planning to take an exotic dance class.  I'm so super excited about it and can't wait!  We were discussing it when I shared that if I danced for him he would totally laugh at me. And he would. He actually started laughing just when I told him I was doing it.

And you know, it didn't seem that bad until I tried to explain it. It totally made it sound like he's not into me...and he is. I've got him completely brainwashed so he thinks I'm hot and sexy.  So it isn't that he doesn't want me - he does. He just doesn't see me that way.  Even though I'm not sure what that way even means...

See?  See how this sounds all kinds of jacked up?  So now his friends think I'm some sort of violent psychopath and my friends think he's some frigid purist. Perfect.

Something that really is true about him is that he's the hardest person ever to buy presents for.  I kinda pride myself on being a good gift-giver. I try really hard to pay attention to little details and pick up on clues so that my gifts are thoughtful and personal. 

I can never do that with him because whenever he wants something, he just goes and buys it!  For Christmas he wanted a hunting rifle so he went out and bought one. But no worries, I could give him the money and that would be my "present" to him.  Then he decided he wanted a scope to go with the gun.  So I tucked that away and planned to surprise him for his birthday. Nope, a few weeks after Christmas one was delivered - he had already ordered it! And giving someone cash for a present they bought themselves just isn't very fun...

So his 40th birthday is this week. That's a huge milestone and I wanted to do something to really make it special.  He's not into parties - that's more my thing - so that was out.  I seriously almost threw him one anyway but then it struck me - if he's not into it, how is that special for him?  Just because I feel like that's the standard thing to do?

And there really isn't anything he's been wanting that I could surprise him with. So I've been super bummed that I'm letting this special day go without enough recognition. Until I got a text about eye surgery - and that was it!

I'm getting his eyes fixed for his birthday!  No more glasses for that guy! We go on Friday for his consult to make sure he's a candidate for the surgery. But I'm so excited for him. And jealous - I want mine done too!  Of course, I'll be celebrating the big 4-0 on a few years...maybe I'll put that on my list!